Friday, June 24, 2011

Whew - June Has Been A Tough One!

Over the last few months, we took a short break from actively networking and going through all of our adoption marketing options because it felt like we were running on a treadmill. Since we had the option to try another fertility cycle, Melissa decided that we should go for it. After all, even though the chances were slim that it would work, doing something was better than doing nothing.  So, we went through the process, the pre-testing, the shots (over 90), the embryo transplant, and the waiting, waiting, waiting. We were pleasantly surprised when we found out that Melissa was pregnant. What a great feeling! After the positive blood tests and great HCG levels, we were certain that Melissa was on her way. We were happy, nervous, scared, excited. . .But, of course, it wasn't to be. 6 weeks into the pregnancy, Melissa had a miscarriage. We often wonder why we are on this type of a journey when others seem to have it so easy. We don't dwell on it, but it is a bit curious. Did we do something in a previous life? Are we on this journey so that we can help others? This ongoing experience also makes me keenly aware that we never really know what's going on in other people's lives. Sure, folks may seem happy on the outside - may appear to have everything going for them. . .but, they may be struggling with difficult stuff at home. If you were to meet Melissa and me on the street, you'd never know our story (unless of course, you've read the blog or seen the NBC spots!).

In any event, I appear to be rambling now. . The culmination of our most recent loss happened in June. It's been a rough couple of weeks, and boy are we happy that June is over next week!


SassyIfLady said...

I came across your blog and I wanted to let you know that I'm so sorry for your loss and that it's been a very difficult June. I hope everything becomes much more clear and that the rest of the summer improves ten fold! Take care!

Melissa and Seth Adoption said...

Thank you very much for your thoughts.

KristaBee said...

Have you guys considered surrogacy? I apologize if this has been asked already. I'm new to the site. :)

Melissa and Seth Adoption said...

We have not pursued a surrogate because it tends to be expensive and just as stressful. It's still on the table for consideration though.